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Self-esteem is essential to a successful life. In this episode, I share a few Bible passages that compromise the believers’ self-worth and value for themselves.
Reference article: What is Self-Esteem
Chapters:
- 0:00 Start
- 0:37 Intro music
- 0:55 Why self-esteem is important?
- 3:03 Think less of yourself (Gal 6.3)
- 3:44 Pride vs conceit (Rom 12.16)
- 4:50 What is pride?
- 5:32 God resist the proud (James 4.6)
- 6:28 The spirit wants to tear you down
- 6:46 Sinful from birth (Psalms 51.5)
- 7:11 What is meekness? *
- 8:51 Blessed our the meek (Matt 5.5) *
- 9:39 All glory be to God (1 Peter 4.10-11)
- 11:30 Make yourself small (John 3.30)
- 12:17 I’m wretched (Rom 7.24)
- 13:18 Your works are filthy (Isa 64.6)
- 14:00 You can do nothing without Jesus (John 15.6)
- 14:46 Outro and music
Transcript
What’s up, good people?
This is your host, Neil Real, and this is the Apostate Apple broadcast.
Today I’m talking about how the Bible destroys self esteem, self confidence and self love.
Okay, I’ve alluded to this in previous broadcasts, but now I’m really talking about it and I found at least 30 scriptures.
I’m sure there’s more, but but they take direct shots at who you are as a person, your esteem and confidence and love for yourself.
So this is going to be a dive into those scriptures.
But before we do that, today we’re talking about self esteem and how the Bible will lure your self esteem.
First of all, let me just explain why self esteem is so important.
This is an article from very wellmined.com.
It says, having healthy self esteem can influence your motivation, your mental well being, and your overall quality of life.
However, having self esteem that is either too high or too low can be problematic.
Here are the reason why self esteem is important.
Self esteem impacts your decision making process, your relationships, your emotional health, your overall well being.
It also influences motivation as people with healthy, positive view of themselves understand their potential and may feel inspired to take on new challenges.
And this is very important.
If you want to win in life, you need to have high self esteem.
So here’s four key characteristics of healthy self esteem.
A firm understanding of one’s skills.
Number two, the ability to maintain healthy relationships with others as a result of having a healthy relationship with one’s self.
Very important.
If you ain’t got a good relationship with yourself, you cannot maintain good relationships with other people.
All right.
Number three, realistic and appropriate personal expectations.
And it says number four here an understanding of one’s needs and the ability to express those needs.
Once again, very important.
He goes on to say here, people with low self esteem tend to feel less sure of their abilities and may doubt their decision making process.
They may not feel motivated to try novel things because they don’t believe they can reach their goals.
Those with low self esteem may have issues with relationships and expressing their needs.
They may also experience low levels of confidence and feel unlovable and unworthy.
I’m not going to get into the rest of this article here because that ain’t the point here.
But I wanted to show you how the Bible kind of takes a shot at all of that with a few scriptures here.
Here’s a good one.
Galatians, chapter six, verses three.
It says, if anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves.
So what the h*** are you doing thinking you are something when you are not?
You are deceiving yourselves.
So anybody has a thought that, hey, I’m great, I’m an awesome person, I’m good.
No, what are you doing?
You are deceiving yourself.
You see a shot at that.
They want to keep your mindset humble.
Now, a lot of people say they don’t like people bragging, they don’t like people boasting, and we get that.
But we need to all think of ourselves as something, all right?
That’s normal self esteem, okay?
Here’s another one.
Romans, chapter twelve, verses 16.
It says, live in harmony with one another.
Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position.
Do not be conceded.
Now, I get this passage, but they’re associating pride with being conceded.
That’s my issue here.
So be willing to associate with people low position.
Say, for instance, you are an attorney and you see a janitor cleaning out the toilets or whatever.
You don’t speak to them, you don’t deal with them because you feel like, well, I’ll make more money than them, I’m better than them.
That’s the problem right there.
And that’s not really pride there.
That’s arrogance, okay, where you think you better than them and above them and they don’t deserve your respect or something like that.
So some will say, yeah, the Bible is saying, don’t be arrogant, but it also takes a shot at your esteem, meaning that you can’t even have basic self esteem.
Let me show you what pride is, because they keep constantly the word pride is often used in the Bible as a sin.
We also know that that’s one of the seven deadly sins.
But let me show you what pride is.
It’s a sense of one’s own proper dignity or value, self respect, pleasure or satisfaction taken in an achievement, possession or association.
All right?
So there’s nothing negative about that.
There’s nothing negative about those two definitions of pride, all right?
Now, arrogance goes further than that.
So it’s like, yeah, I feel good about myself, but everybody else ain’t s*** around me, you know what I’m saying?
I’m better than these people out here.
You feel me?
That’s the type of s*** that nobody likes that.
And that’s what I would call immoral.
Let me see another passage here.
Here’s James, chapter four, verses six.
It says, God opposes the proud, but shows favor to the humble.
Okay?
So once again, basic proper dignity for yourself, value for yourself, self respect.
God don’t like that.
He don’t want you to have that, okay?
Just to have pride is a sin against God.
He says.
He opposes the proud, those who feel good about themselves.
He has a problem with those people.
And so everybody, especially myself, I’m considered a proud person now because I don’t want to get down with God or I take pride in my abilities.
I’m a web developer, I’m an artist, a graphic designer.
I got skills.
I take dignity in that.
I take dignity and pride in my appearance, but somehow I’m a bad person because of that.
And see what you’ll see as I can keep going on here throughout this series, is what they want to do, this spirit of religion.
He wants to tear you down as a person.
They don’t want you to feel good about yourself.
They want that feeling of good to come from that religion.
Here’s some more shots at your self esteem.
Psalms 51 five surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.
There you go again, taking a shot at me.
I’m a sinful person from birth.
And what this does to people, as I mentioned before, that it destroys your self esteem.
You start to look low in yourself and you don’t see yourself as valuable and all that good stuff.
The Bible talks about being meek.
He constantly tells people to be meek.
What is meekness?
Let’s look that up.
What does that mean?
Showing patience and humility, gentle, easily imposed on submissive.
I don’t like that second definition right there to be easily imposed on and submissive.
Okay?
And you see here that you said, showing patience and humility, gentle.
God wants these weak a** m************.
That’s what he wants you to be.
You’re gentle.
You’re just easily imposed upon, be submissive.
And that’s what he wants.
He wants people like that.
This is what this book is telling you to be.
And we know that the God of the Bible doesn’t exist.
They can’t prove his existence.
It’s really a bunch of men using this book to control you and to suppress you.
And they saying, look, you need to be this way so that we can mold you, that we can control you.
We don’t want people who think for themselves, who have high self esteem and feel good about themselves.
We want a bunch of low self esteem having m************.
That’s what we want.
Weak a**, beat down people.
That’s the people we need so we can mold them.
I read all this and followed it, and I was a meek person.
I was patient, I was humble, I was gentle, and it didn’t get me that far.
Easily imposed on is the second definition here.
Submissive.
Women don’t like that word.
I don’t like that word.
And we’ll talk about that too, like women ain’t had no business submitting to a man they don’t want to submit to.
Matthew five five says, blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
So once again, what are the meek?
People that show patience and humility, which is the opposite of pride.
So they want you to be less than who you are and then be easily imposed on and submissive.
Those are the people that will inherit the earth.
And we know that there is no afterlife.
There is not going to be judgment from God or anything like that.
So anybody being meek is pretty much going to have a problem on this earth.
They’re going to get pushed around, they get disrespected, and then they’re going to die and not wake up into heaven.
They just won’t have anything.
So you’ll have a miserable existence trying to follow this Bible.
And once again, I was a person doing that.
I was following that.
Let’s keep going here.
First Peter four, chapter four, verses ten through eleven.
This is another one.
It gets to me, and that’s why I’m so against this Bible right now.
At least the interpretation, how it’s given to the people.
First Peter, chapter four, verses ten and eleven.
It says, I just want to hone in on that last sentence to Him be the glory and the power forever and ever.
Amen.
This is constant thing throughout the Scriptures where you got to give God the glory for anything you do, anything great happening.
All.
Glory be to God.
And I remember as a Bible teacher, even when people give me compliments on my wisdom and supposed wisdom in espousing the Scriptures, oh, man, I really appreciate you, man.
You’re really a wise man.
All.
Glory be to God.
I would never accept their congratulations or praise for my abilities.
I will always give glory to God for my skills and web design.
I think I would give glory to God in artistry.
All.
Glory be to God.
It’s like, it’s not me, it’s Him.
He’s doing this.
He gave me this.
Everything is about Him, not me when I’m the f****** person that did the s***.
But I got to give glory to God.
So this is why I say, all glory be to me.
When I do something good, I give glory to myself.
I pat myself on the back.
Good for me.
And that supports my self esteem.
Okay, once again, high self esteem is feelings of competence, having self confidence, a feeling of security.
You need all these things to be successful in life.
But if everything is connected to a God that don’t exist, you’re kind of f***** up in the game.
This is not healthy to your psyche as a person here.
But yet the Bible is telling you this is how things should be.
All right, here’s another one.
They just get worse and worse as we go.
John, chapter three, verses 30.
It says, I must decrease so he which is God, can increase.
So he’s essentially saying, put yourself down and uplift, jesus, once again leading to poor self esteem.
See if you can’t pat yourself on the back every time you do something great which boosts your esteem.
You won’t have confidence in your abilities going forward as a person if you keep giving glory to God.
Who are you?
I’m going to keep going.
Let me just show you some more of these passages here.
When you really study the Bible, you will see how degrading it is to people.
Romans, chapter seven, verses 24.
Over the wretched man I am who will rescue me from this body of sin.
First of all, rescue now?
Now I got to be rescued, but I’m a wretched man.
That’s a negative thing to say about yourself.
Once again, all this stuff here, these are negative affirmations that will manifest in your life to where you will be what you say you are about yourself.
So as a man thinketh, so he is, which is a proverb from the Bible, but it’s also a copy from somewhere else.
You see this?
You’re a wretched person.
We read that passage in the past about people struggling with sin and that you supposed to feel like a wretched person every time you wake up and live because you’re such a sinner.
And you got to constantly go to God for forgiveness.
And this is destroying your self esteem and your pride in yourself.
You need to have pride in yourself to be a healthy human being.
Here’s another passage that just destroys your self esteem.
It just goes against anything that you do good.
In Isaiah, chapter 64, verses six, it says all your good works are like filthy rags to God.
Anything you doing good to Him is just don’t compare.
He’s so much holier than you, you never measure up to Him.
He’s better than you.
What you’re doing for him is worthless.
This is what the Bible teaches, and it’s about the grace of God that you’re saved.
It’s the blood of Jesus that saves you, not you.
It’s about God.
It’s not about you.
You ain’t s***.
Even on your best day, you ain’t s*** compared to me.
And this is what you know, this Bible rams into people’s minds.
So this is why a lot of Christians have low self esteem.
Another one, and this is the final one before we get up out of here.
John, chapter 15, verses five through six.
I’m a paraphrase it, but it basically says you can do nothing without Christ.
He talks about Christ being the vine and you are the branches.
And without the vine, you ain’t s***.
You’re just an extension to Him.
Once again, he says you can do nothing without Christ.
And I’ve also heard people say you are nothing without Christ.
And essentially that’s what the Bible teaches as well.
He created you.
You’re an extension to him.
Without Him, you wouldn’t be here.
You wouldn’t be there, wouldn’t be nothing.
So people don’t have a lot of high self esteem when they study and ingest these Bible verses here.
Okay, that’s all I got for you today.
I got more, so stay tuned.
I’ll have another group of them talking about them, and I’ll be talking about self love and confidence in your autonomy as a person and your mindset.
The Bible is coming at you in all different kind of ways to tear that down.
So stay tuned.
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