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The Bible and modern Western society say adultery is immoral. I don’t. In this episode, I explain why. Chapters:<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"inline_featured_image":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-551","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-opinion"],"acf":{"file_name":"aa-ep10-my-views-on-adultery","duration":"17:19","ep_num":10,"file_size":15,"transcript_content":"What's up good people?\n\nThis is your host, Neil Real and this is the Apostate Apple broadcast today.\n\nI'm talking about my view on adultery now that I don't accept the Bible's view of it.\n\nSo let's get right into it.\n\nBut before we do that okay, we're back and I just want to share my views of adultery.\n\nSo adultery is the violation of the agreement between a couple to be sexually exclusive with an illegal marriage.\n\nIt's called cheating if there is no legal agreement.\n\nAnd in both cases, people get pretty furious when their partner has sex with someone other than them.\n\nI don't believe adultery is immoral and I'm going to state why.\n\nI don't believe people should have exclusive rights over someone else's body, which is their sexuality.\n\nThe idea that you can only have sex with one person while you're in a relationship with them doesn't make sense.\n\nAnd it goes against, I say, basic human biology.\n\nSo without exclusive rights to your partner's body, adultery just would exist.\n\nSo here's the real reason that people have an issue with adultery.\n\nAnd this is my opinion, and by the way, I'm coming from studies of polygonist households, men with multiple wives, women with multiple husbands, polyamorous relationships where people have a free for all, where it's kind of configured to how they all want to fit together.\n\nSo the real reason people have an issue with adultery is that one, the idea of owning someone is shattered.\n\nPeople have an ego and they think they get to own somebody.\n\nSo they get married, they get a girlfriend, a boyfriend or whatever.\n\nThey're in a so called relationship.\n\nThey feel like that person is all theirs.\n\nAnd then when adultery comes, they feel like they're shattered.\n\nI don't own you.\n\nYou're going around giving yourself to some other body, somebody else.\n\nSo the reason you want to think you own someone is about security.\n\nAnd that is normal.\n\nOne of the human needs is security.\n\nSecure in finances, secure in foundation and protection and living space and in a partner.\n\nOr particularly the attributes that a partner provides, like affection, admiration, attention, connection, belonging, emotional support.\n\nThese are all things that they want to feel secure in.\n\nThey don't want to have to always be searching for somebody and then they get with them and then the person goes away and then they got to go find somebody else to get these same needs from.\n\nSo it's easier to have somebody there for that specific reason.\n\nSo everybody is meeting each other's needs and so security is a big deal.\n\nSo adultery tends to ignite the fear of losing those resources from their partner.\n\nBut I would say this is a false fear.\n\nLike it's nothing to be scared of just because somebody is having sex with someone else.\n\nThere's two reasons why people commit adultery or cheat.\n\nThe first reason is they're not getting their needs met.\n\nSo they go get it by somebody else.\n\nThe second reason is their needs are met.\n\nEverything is fine.\n\nIt's simply they want a variety.\n\nInsects, they want to have access to somebody else.\n\nThey want some new p**** or they want some new d***.\n\nThat's what it's about.\n\nAnd so if it's the latter, I don't see why somebody would be fearful of the relationship ending or them losing resources because of that, because they're just going out for sex.\n\nBut a lot of people equate sex with, oh, you don't love me at all.\n\nYou have attraction for somebody else now and not for me.\n\nAnd what they're saying is the resources are going to go with them.\n\nAnd that's not necessarily the case unless it's the first reason you're not getting your needs met now.\n\nThis also flies in the face of natural human desires.\n\nWe all tend to find the opposite sex attractive, no matter if we're in a relationship or not.\n\nWe don't lose the desire for other people.\n\nIt just never goes away.\n\nSo that's my issue with it.\n\nThat's why I know and believe that sexuality is about variety, and you can't be stuck on one person.\n\nSo to be bound exclusively to one partner throughout the duration of the relationship goes against the nature of humanity and how sex works.\n\nSex is about variety.\n\nIf monogamy was normal, we lose attraction for the opposite sex once we couple.\n\nSex is about variety.\n\nI never cease to see other women as attractive.\n\nWhen I was married, it didn't go away, and I'm sure my wife seen men that were attractive too.\n\nI think that you can do a lot sexually with your partner, with that one partner that you have, but still it will get boring and you will desire to be with somebody else.\n\nSo I kind of equate sex with one person in a monogamous relationship to eating steak and potatoes every day, right?\n\nSo, yeah, you can change the steak up with different seasonings, maybe different marination.\n\nThe potatoes can be made into fries, tater tots, baked potatoes, mashed potatoes, different seasonings.\n\nBut eventually it's going to get boring, all right, because it's just steak and potatoes now.\n\nHuman beings are way more different than that, okay?\n\nAnd I'm not equating them to simply something that's like steak and potatoes.\n\nBut you can perform every Comma Sutra sex position.\n\nYou can get into tantra sex and go into different dimensions.\n\nYou can role play.\n\nYou can get into different kinks and fetishes and do all type of stuff in the bedroom.\n\nBut it's the same spirit, the same energy from that person.\n\nAnd there's nothing like new p**** or new d*** for the ladies out there.\n\nSo I think it's wise to say that sex is about variety.\n\nI don't see any other being on the planet practicing monogamy.\n\nI would say 99% of all other creatures on the planet practice some form of polyamory or something like that.\n\nI would never force this on anybody.\n\nThis is just my view on adultery.\n\nSo while you can agree to be sexually exclusive to one another, no man or woman outside of your committed relationship is obligated to respect that agreement.\n\nAnd so it really trips me out sometimes now that I have this understanding how a man could be upset with another man for having sex with his wife.\n\nAs if the woman did not open her legs up to that man.\n\nIf anybody you should be upset with, it should be the woman.\n\nShe broke the agreement, not the man.\n\nThe man.\n\nHe may or may not have known if she was engaged or she was in a committed relationship and he decided to have sex with her because the woman allowed him to.\n\nAnd this happens in some cases because the woman just wants some side thick and she's been doing this.\n\nShe won variety, you see?\n\nSo that's how I look at things.\n\nI don't advocate for any person engaging in adultery or dealing with somebody else's partner, frankly, because it's a social climate.\n\nI mean, you can get killed for something like that.\n\nI'm going to share two stories.\n\nFirst story was me.\n\nI was dating a girl that was engaged to be married the whole time.\n\nAnd I didn't know it.\n\nIt's a short time, but I found out through a connection of hers who was pretty much helping me out.\n\nAnd I met this girl at the summer program for Youth, right?\n\nAnd this is in Detroit.\n\nI was 19 or so.\n\nI think she was the same age or whatever, but she was engaged to be married the whole time.\n\nShe never mentioned a guy, never had a ring on.\n\nBut this is what I was doing.\n\nAnd when I found out, I stopped messing with her because of my Christian values or whatever.\n\nBut to connect to that that summer program that me and her met at one of the teachers that taught us because we had several teachers.\n\nOne taught us how to build computers from scratch.\n\nThe other one had us learning different software on computers and there was another one helping us do some other stuff.\n\nBut anyway, this third teacher after I had graduated and this girl I was dealing with graduated, I don't know, maybe about a month or so later, I seen her on TV and she was on the 10:00 news and she had killed her husband for infidelity.\n\nShe blew his head off because he was dealing with another woman.\n\nAnd she's up on the scene.\n\nShe's up on the picture there looking sad and kind of out of it.\n\nAnd I was like, D***.\n\nAnd here I am dealing with a woman who was engaged.\n\nAnd she told me, hey, you can come over my house.\n\nAnd after I found out, I never come over there.\n\nAnd what's funny is I seen the man that she was engaged to be married to but I didn't know that he was with her.\n\nSo anyway, I could have been in the house and getting caught up in some drama.\n\nI share those two stories to say that, hey, I'm not advocating for anybody going after anybody's spouse.\n\nI just want to share that I don't believe it's a sin.\n\nI don't believe adult trees are sin because I don't believe monogamy should be prescribed to people.\n\nI don't think it's normal.\n\nHere's the reason why.\n\nI don't think polygamy is to prescribe the norm at least in these Western countries.\n\nAnd I think the reason why is number one there's jealousy.\n\nA lot of people get jealous because they're insecure so a lot of people are insecure.\n\nSo they would have a big issue with sharing somebody because they would feel like maybe I'm not that good enough.\n\nMaybe my partner's affections may go elsewhere even though they're in a polygamous or polyamorous relationship.\n\nThat's the first problem.\n\nThe second problem I see and why polygamy is why it's not the norm is because the state of men in the Western world, most men and women, have been altered in some way.\n\nAnd and I talked about this in my early podcast about emasculation.\n\nAnd when a man is emasculated he is not as attractive to women as he would be if he was fully masculine.\n\nAnd so I see that happening in a great deal in Western culture.\n\nAnd because of that, if polygamy was normal most women would not deal with most men.\n\nThey would not even talk to him.\n\nThey would deal with the God.\n\nThat's masculine.\n\nAnd when anytime a country is being subjected to different ideologies that cause the men to be less manly there's always that 20% that refused to bow because they got information that the others don't have.\n\nAnd so they maintain their manhood and because of that they stay attractive.\n\nThey walk in their masculine energy and that attracts women.\n\nAnd so women begin to see them and they begin to ignore the majority of the men.\n\nAnd so what will happen was the men will start to see that most of the women are dealing with this few set small group of men because the 80% of men want to have sex with women.\n\nThey want to have women in long term relationships but cannot.\n\nThey will become very envious of the men that are getting the women the 20% and they would probably try to kill them if not succeed.\n\nAnd so once you get rid of the real men or the men with high masculinity now you got a bunch of beta males, quote unquote, running around and then you got these women who have to settle for them.\n\nAnd so that's going to create a huge problem.\n\nAnd I can see a huge imbalance in the Western world where people are just really upset with one another and there's nowhere to get an outlet.\n\nAnd so what I see monogamy doing is allowing everybody to get somebody even though you may not be that attractive because of your programming by your country.\n\nAnd I'm saying this because I was affected by these will.\n\nI truly see an emasculation of men where we used to be stronger, we used to be more manly, but we're not.\n\nSo monogamy is here to kind of fix that, allow everybody to get somebody, at least create a sense of security.\n\nIt's a false sense of security, but monogamy provides every man and woman the opportunity to have somebody and make them believe that you got somebody all to yourself.\n\nYet people still cheat all day, every day.\n\nWomen got a man that takes care of them and loves them, but they're not really sexually attracted to him.\n\nSo they have a side man just for d***.\n\nAnd there are men doing the same thing.\n\nThey got this beautiful woman that's good to them and everything like that, but she's not as freaky and she ain't this and she ain't that sexually.\n\nSo he's got a side chick for that.\n\nYou see, in some cases, he's lying to tell him about he's going to leave his wife, but he never does.\n\nAnd that goes back to my point about adultery.\n\nJust because a man is having sex with some woman outside of the marriage doesn't mean that he is going to leave you.\n\nThe only reason why somebody would leave a marriage is because they're not getting their needs met.\n\nIf they're getting their needs met, then the issue of infidelity is just basically purely on sex, sexual variety, which I believe people need to accept as the norm.\n\nEverybody would like to have sex with different people even though they're in a committed relationship.\n\nSo just to recap, monogamy is a false sense of security in my opinion.\n\nSex is about variety.\n\nMonogamy is something that goes against human nature, in my opinion.\n\nAnd if we allow people to be polygamous, there would be no such thing as adultery.\n\nYou would have to come up with another word like, I'm not getting my needs met, and that's a violation.\n\nThat would be great.\n\nNow, we could hold people to actual standards that means something, but not where they put their d*** at and who's she letting inside her p****.\n\nSo that's all I got for you.\n\nThose are my views on adultery.\n\nI don't think it's immoral because I don't believe people should have exclusive rights over someone else's body.\n\nAll right?\n\nAnd so without exclusive rights to your partner's body, this would eliminate the so called immoral sin of adultery.\n\nThat's all I got for you, everybody.\n\nI appreciate you for listening.\n\nLike, share subscribe.\n\nEmail me@neilandilreal.com if you got questions.\n\nBe blessed and have a good day.\n\nSubscribe 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