Life ain’t fair. I had a landlord that wouldn’t honor his contractual agreement. Reporting him to the attorney general and suing him wouldn’t necessary fix the problem. It isn’t fair that he’s in charge and I have to either accept it or find another place to live. Life ain’t fair.
Life ain’t fair. I had a job full of bigot coworkers and a group of leadership that didn’t care. I was fired for standing up and protesting. Look at that! The coworkers were the ones causing the problems, but I was terminated. Life ain’t fair.
Life ain’t fair. The mayor cut the bus services, greatly minimizing the reliability of public transportation and leaving people standing in the cold not knowing when the bus would arrive. It would help if more money was shifted to help people get to work instead of lining the pockets of the corrupt leaders in the city. Life ain’t fair.
Life ain’t fair. There are terrible churches full of manipulative, money-hungry, arrogant, hypocritical leaders, and no real fellowships for real Christians. Life aint fair.
What can be done?
Just telling someone that life isn’t fair doesn’t change anything. It’s doesn’t really help them all that much and it certainly doesn’t make them feel any better. I’ve come to the conclusion on how to deal with the unfair things in life: counter them.
If I have a lying, shiftless landlord, perhaps I should buy some property of my own and become a landlord that’s fair, honest, respectful, and who honors his agreements and accommodates his tenants.
If I have a bigoted, incompetent manager who has no business being in leadership, perhaps I should start my own company and be the boss/manager that maintains an environment of fairness, equality and respect — someone who encourages growth and creativity and rewards everyone for great work and behavior.
If the bus system is crappy, I should work hard to get a car, and develop that app I feel would benefit riders via their smart phones. Or, come out with my own transportation system or support someone who’s already developing one.
If the church is corrupted, I can be the alternative light and leadership. I can also provide the place of fellowship for the real saints of God.
I know some of this stuff sounds like it can’t be done, but this is where all the great inventions, organizations, support systems and institutes come from. It can be done. If I see the problem and know the solution, I should do something about it. I heard this said, “Be the change you want to see.”
What shouldn’t be done?
I know what doesn’t help: Resentful complaining. I found myself doing some major complaining over these things, and for what? Complaining didn’t change the situation. Don’t get me wrong, complaining to the authorities is the right thing to do especially when there are injustices, but to continue to do it over and over until it leads to resentment and bitterness does no one any good — it only eats you up inside.
Then I had to find out why I was doing this to myself. The reason: I had a high level of integrity and when I came up against injustice, disorder, immorality and suffering, it really bothered me. Knowing this, instead of becoming resentful and bitter about it, I should use my anger and put it to good use to counter some of the worlds problems. With this mindset, I can turn negatives into positives and this benefits everyone.
Life ain’t fair, but I can be the change I want to see.
. I would like to know if this is anyone else’s experience.